The most romantic lines every couple says is “I wish you be my wife/husband for the next seven lives(saat janam)”. Well this is not only a proverbial saying but a true fact. Any spouse would have been known by the other for many, many past lives.
When the time comes for action(marriage) for the past life Karma, attraction happens (usually via Venus or Rahu) and if Rahu is in any way associated with Venus or the marriage houses,(7th house) marriage takes place.
Attraction is all about Matching Energy. We humans are attracted to others who possess qualities we lack - but need and want - in order to psychically complete one self.
These qualities may be desirable/positive or undesirable/negative or destructive. Typically, the attraction is quite unconscious. One finds oneself suddenly "in love” with an apparently wonderful person, with whom one feels balanced and complete.
This is because of tangible soul recognition and mutual spiritual confirmation leading to the marriage . The confirmation or the marriage is not always completely a positive experience. It can be negative and full of tension but the relationship is a comfortable, familiar sort of trouble that seems well-remembered, necessary, and just right. That is the reason many people bear the relationship as it is, even though they have options of ending the relationship.
Whether positive or negative or an interesting mix, this combination of qualities to which we are so convincingly attracted is indeed the right match. Each human is on a mission to acquire the self-knowledge necessary to feel complete within ourselves. We attract, and are attracted to the partners with whom we have a past life mission/agreement to complete.
Direct knowledge of our own subconscious is, for most people, totally blocked. The only way most of us can find out what's really going on in that vast heap of past-life accrual is by watching our own thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors played out in the mirror of our relationship with others.
Since all marriages are timed by Rahu-Ketu, which means all marriages involve attraction as well as repulsion.
· In a love marriage, you personally are attracted and (later) repulsed - typically by the psycho-emotional qualities of the partner.
· In an arranged marriage your guardians are attracted-repulsed - typically by the social-material qualities of the partner.It is often observed in modern India, where arranged marriages remain fairly common, that the success rate of arranged marriages approximately equals the success rate of love marriages. That is, about 50% of marriages are satisfying; 50% problematic - regardless of whether they are romantic or arranged.
The big-picture view is that, no matter what social mechanism selects the mate, we will all create (through impetus of samskara) a spouse/series of spouses who perfectly match our karmic job description.
But in either case Desire (which eventually boomerangs to Contempt) plays a major karmic role in Marriage. The karmic forces behind marriage are so strong that it seems not to matter much whether one chooses one's mate through falling in love or allows that mate to be chosen by one's social guardians. When it is time for the karmic partner to find you, they will find you! And the process of attraction and soul confirmation will result in marriage.
So what attracts us is actually the baggage we are carrying!!