Saturday, 23 November 2013

What is marriage?

Most of the people have heard of Raj Yoga and say that person is so very rich; he has Raj Yoga in his Kundli.
 Let me now introduce u to another important yoga in astrology which we all have in our Kundlis but we are not aware of it as a yoga. The marriage Yoga, it is a “Commitment Yoga". It is affected mainly by the 7th house known as the Yuvati Bhava
Yuvati = yoga = yoke
Marriage is one of the most important Yoga in our lives. It is the central yoga, the central balance point, the central control, and the central discipline, of the entire human life.
Every human being has this Yoga whether it is the ordained celibate religious monk, who has only his god in his heart or a simple human being like you and me. Everyone is "yoked" on some level to a mirroring, judging, responding, participating partner.
Like any yoke- or yoga - marriage creates both stability and bondage. Whether the marriage is experienced as a blessing or a curse depends on the condition of Yuvati bhava (the 7th house) and its relationship to each of the other 11 houses of the radix chart.
The marriage yoke binds self- indicated by lagna (house 1) to “other” house7
·   Two partners enter the Yoke like two oxen. After the yoke is on, they have to work together, pulling in the same direction.
·   If they don't, it hurts- and nothing gets accomplished.
·   If they do, a nice plowed field will manifest - and everybody, including the oxen, will flourish.
“The good or ill hap of a good or ill life,
is the good or ill choice of a good or ill wife.”
This is what Benjamin Franklin had said about marriage.
 He himself had marital problems.  His first wife was married to someone else and thus legally only his concubine. His eldest son was illegitimate (a huge stigma in those days).
 The word Marriage is defined as junction, adjust, justifiable, conjugal, justice, adjudicate, conjunct, juncture, disjunction, injunction, adjunct, judicious, yoke, yoga, well-adjusted (Reference English etymological dictionary).
·         Any officiated marriage is a consciously committed partnership in which
(1)  Vows of matrimony are spoken (this maybe even in private) between any two persons of any gender (or by their priests), in the presence of a third, a witness, such as a priest, govt official, or in the presence of a sacred fire homa.
--- Or ---
 (2) A child was conceived into the union (even if that pregnancy did not result in the birth of a live child).
There may be an impulsive, brief, childless legal marriage in which vows were spoken while drugged or in a confused or traumatized state of mind. These rare, deceptive pseudo-marriages are "null and do not count as marriage despite the fact that the "performative statement" was issued. If it wasn't for the vow, which makes this union a truly sacred commitment, the day of the ceremony would have no value at all. The real work is not in "getting married but in "being married”.
It has been common practice in many cultures worldwide and especially now in the modern west as well as the east for partners to enjoy long-term exclusive sexual partnerships, especially in youth. These are merely loving relationships and not a real marriage. These marriage-like relationships (live-in, sweet, romantic, sexually pleasuring relationships) don't generally qualify as marriage. These lovely sweetheart romances, even when long-lasting, indeed belong to bhava-5, the house of amusements, poetry, fame and romantic love.
So you see the moment the partners take the vows, the relationship changes and so do the astrological houses. From the 5th house relationship it is now a 7th house relationship and that is what every wife and husband say, you were different before marriage, and the wife complains that “he cared more before marriage”. The attitude of the partners changes as the planets position has changed. This is almost the case with every married couple that they complain about the change in attitude of the spouse.

To be continued
(Next topic --Why is marriage important ?)

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